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Waiting To Hear From Them

 Once they arrive you want them to get in touch to be able to tell you that they have arrived safely and all the other questions you are just waiting to ask, but it’s not always possible. It’s not that they don’t want to or can’t be bothered. The heavy schedule and long hours can prevent it. In the first two weeks you may hear absolutely nothing. The change over of personnel makes life hectic and they will have loads of work to do.

 

Everyone who is deployed is entitled to 30 minutes of free calls per week

 

Your lifestyle does change more than you expect and you get into a routine that tends to revolve around the letterbox, the phone and your computer. You stare at the phone as if willing it to ring. As they say, “a watched pot never boils” You take it everywhere with you so there is no chance of missing a call. Even to the loo or bathroom just to be extra sure! There it is in your handbag or pocket whenever you go out or go to work. You know that should you even leave it behind once, even for just 10 minutes to pop out,  you will miss that call. Then you are really gutted.

 

You have never been this way before, slightly obsessive.

But acting abnormally is – in fact - normal

So give a huge confident smile as if to say, “Yes, I am just like everyone else and not going bonkers.” You haven’t totally lost the plot. Not yet at any rate. And you will gradually find a way to handle things better.