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I'm Being Bullied

Bullying may be characterised as offensive, intimidating, malicious or insulting behaviour, an abuse or misuse of power through means intended to undermine, humiliate, denigrate or injure the recipient.

People often think of children when they think of bullying but it can affect a lot of adults. Particularly in such a hierarchal enviroment as the Armed Forces, bullying can spill over into patch life.   

Bullying or harassment may be by an individual against an individual or involve groups of people. It may be obvious or it may be insidious. Whatever form it takes, it is unwarranted and unwelcome to the individual.

Examples of bullying/harassing behaviour include:

·         spreading malicious rumours, or insulting someone by word or behaviour (particularly on the grounds of age, race, sex, disability, sexual orientation and religion or belief)

·         ridiculing or demeaning someone – picking on them or setting them up to fail

·         exclusion or victimisation

·         unfair treatment

·         overbearing supervision or other misuse of power or position

·         unwelcome sexual advances – touching, standing too close, the display of offensive materials, asking for sexual favours, making decisions on the basis of sexual advances being accepted or rejected

·         making threats or comments about job security without foundation

·         deliberately undermining a competent worker by overloading and constant criticism

It’s important to remember that bullying and harassment are not necessarily face to face. It can be much more subtle than that.

The playground bully is a well-established stereotype. But sadly, bullying does not disappear when you walk out the school gates for the last time. It can be a real shock to people when they find themselves, as an adult, being bullied by another adult.

 

All services take allegations of inappropriate behaviour extremely seriously and investigate thoroughly any claims of bullying in the workplace. However, this doesn’t apply to the partners or wives and girlfriends who are sometimes left to fend with the politics of patch life by themselves. It can be a VERY bitchy environment and if you do find yourself being bullied or harassed then it can destroy your family life.

 

The first thing to remember is that you do not need to put up with it. Go to your Welfare Office and chat through your problems in confidence.

Speak to your partner and read up on what support is available through charities and support groups like www.bullying.co.uk

 

Don’t underestimate how hard it is dealing with situations like this and please don’t suffer in silence.